Quiet night in..

... back in my own house - with my lovely Kipper - who seems to have reacted well to having been living round at Rob's at night and here during the day. I also think he had a lot of exercise with Rob taking him for three walks a day as well as walking him round and back to his house - Kipper's still sleeping it all off!

Jim still away - apparently they are getting a bit short of money - but that's natural and educational! Alex is also in Germany - not sure where.

Everyone at work is very tired.. delivery only finished last Friday and it's been a long and hard year so far - still seems a remarkable amount going on though - we all went out with the departing GAs and the US Interns on Monday - they go home on Friday - lovely bunch this year.

Being away has made me appreciate how lucky I am to be surrounded by such a great group of people.

Still in Germany

At the end of a very long day – and after a week of being a student which has left me either over confident or just not concentrating – because twice today I have got the tram in the wrong direction - the last time left me at 11.45 at night – in Uber somewhere – which in the pitch dark looked and felt like Uber Nowhere – and I finally worked out that I had got off the last tram of the night! Bit scary but finally found my way - very dark - very quiet - to a bus stop - where a bus magically appeared and after a strange conversation in German - I was back en route to the hotel - passing a sign which said 8km Kassel! - the bus took me - the only passenger on it - round the backstreets of Kassel hinterland – sleeping with all its lights off - before finally getting back to the station - my drop off point for the hotel - I was very relieved to get back here - two hours after I left the restaurant!

Had a weird day – course going well – we – the students are being quite critical of the teaching styles – it’s being run by academics who know their stuff but present it in a somewhat uninspiring manner – I’m not certain that this isn’t just the German method of teaching – but the Dutch and Danish are very critical – I’m just enjoying being a student – and asking difficult questions!

In another completely different way – today’s Lecturer was a bit disconcerting. I have had not had a lot of ‘Seeing Chris’ moments –since he died – a couple – but today as I sat listening to this guy from the Netherlands talking – I became increasingly struck how he had similarities with Chris physically – he was a man about the same age – but he had similarities of build and hair and skin, eyebrows – he didn’t ‘look’ like him – but I don’t know if I have ever seen anyone who ‘resembled’ Chris so much – it was weird. I had to make a conscious decision not to be upset about it - and I wasn’t but I knew I wanted to tell someone – so I have blogged it!

Anyway it’s getting late and I have to be up early to pack and checkout before another couple of sessions before getting the train to another obscure bit of Germany to get home - obviously thinking a lot about Jimmy – also travelling – as he managed to lose his mobile at Benicassim I am relying on Jan, Barney’s Mum for updates on their travels!

Mantra strong - how lucky am I!

Alone in Germany

But OK - not quite certain where abouts in Germnay I am - somewhere called Siegen - it's quite small and pretty and very German - picture postcard houses! The conference in Utrecht was very good - but quite hard work - a few people I knew but I found the whole programme very stimulating and thought provoking!

Off to the opera tonight - it's currently pouring with rain and it's and outdoor production of Aida - have already bought an umbrella - might invest in a more waterproof kagool - could be a long wet night! Talked to Rob and Alex - no news from the festival boy Jim beyond had arrived safely and the coach had been a 'masterstroke'! Rob seems to be coping with the dog - or the dog seems to coping with being at Rob's. so now time for me to go an explore Siegen!

Home alone

... before going off tomorrow - to new, unknown and at the moment bit scary places. Dog completely neurotic - lots of boys with rucksacks this morning was just too much for him - he really gets upset by luggage - and I suppose the atmosphere of excitement - however 'cool' they are!

Feeling that I'm burdening Rob with the dog - but have exchanged kennel fees for (hopefully) last few driving lessons.

Went dancing tonight - a particularly good peer group dance - I did the music for Flow which I was bit nervous about because only I did it at the last minute because of computer problems - but strangely - or perhaps because of time pressures - it went down very well - then after the quickest shower and change ever - went for a drink with Gilly as we haven't seen each other for ages and I'm off tomorrow.

So now I'm home - and home alone - still find this a difficult place to be - probaby because I'm just so unused to it. But I do feel more OK and comfortable than last time - which is good.

Had a text from Jimmy - he's now camping with 30,000 others in Benicassim and the 'Jimmy Jenkins coach' which he arranged apparently was a 'masterstroke' which just feels good.

So home alone - but OK - very aware of how lucky am I to be me!

A weekend of computers and boys

We have had a system32 virus at home - and we've been watching - like last weeks episode of Dr Who - as programme after programme switched themselves off!

You get used to a computer that works - Rob has been absolutely fantastic and re-formatted and re-driven and done all the extra little bits that we wanted - swore quite a lot during the process but got us back on line - followed by everything else - it's all running well now - technology is great when it's working but nothing more irritating when it isn't!

Having boys for the weekend as Peri is in London with the choir - as part of the Last Choir Standing competition - lots and lots of pressure on her as Musical Director. Boys had important weekend with Jamal's Prom on Friday and Aziz had his first proper party last night - beer, girls and being 14!

Tomorrow Jimmy is off to Benicassim for a 10 day music festival with loads of his mates, followed by back packing with a few of them. He has ended up as the chief organiser and he has done so well.

Went for a run this morning and passed the Beech Tree where we scattered Chris's ashes - thought about Chris and how proud he would have been of all his beautiful sons - it's thoughts like that which can still make me cry - but I suppose they always will!

Anyway - time to wake boys up and Peri's coming for dinner when she gets back from London later - I'm off to a conference on Tuesday in Utrecht and then doing a weeks course at a German university - and inspired by Jimmy's festival have arranged to go and see Aida performed outside in a castle next Saturday night. I feel quite excited about going off on my own - I'm moving on.

Feeling tired yet very happy

Went to Deonne's wedding tonight - and it was lovely. Had a few doubts earlier on - not sure who I'd talk to etc and that it is my wedding anniversary today - but it was a lovely wedding party - last year I ducked out of weddings but I suppose I also avoided a lot of other things as well.

Did feel a 'single' woman - but also feel so much more confident with that - also really enjoyed meeting the partners of my staff - which I don't usually do, so all in all an excellent evening/night - it's now 2 and I'm off to meet my family and cousins tomorrow so need to get to bed... but am happy it's my 34th wedding anniversary - and also reconciled to the fact that it's my second without Chris.

Life goes on - and it's now time for bed.......