blogging on a train.....

Travelling across the North of Finland by train - passing through the forests, fields and occasional towns - many evergreens but overall a patchwork of oranges, yellows and shades of greens as the autumn colours shine - they are ahead of us up here, though I noticed chestnut trees turning when I was out with my Mum a couple of weeks ago - so when I get back I am sure the park and trees will have well started to change. Autumn..... There are many, many lakes here - small and large and at the moment the sky is bright blue with some white feathers of clouds. The sky seems to change very quickly. Finland is very beautiful and showing off to me as I travel through her splendour! Yesterday we went to an island and I loved the sea and the endless horizon. We do live in such a truly beautiful earth. I have seen several flocks of swans and yesterday big groups of grey cranes - huge birds - special to see............ Today I will meet old friends and I am very happy to be travelling - train journeys are much more restful that planes, especially with views like I am experiencing............. I am also aware that this is the first anniversary week of my Father's death and the sixth of Chris's.... that feels quite emotional, but also OK. Both of those lovely men loved me - and how special and joyous to know that - and I do know it deep, deep in my heart. I also know that I was given such a huge gift to be born to a man who loved me - I smile as I feel his love around me..... and then to have the second gift of being loved by a truly wonderful man for so many years - again I can feel Chris's love deep in my heart - but I don't actually feel as close to him now.... maybe it's the passage of time - or maybe he is busy - I laugh as I write this - but in some ways I love to think of him being busy - he was a truly huge man - a huge hearted, powerful, beautiful man - who loved and treasured the small things in life..... my blessing is to have these two men in my life. So here I am surrounded by people chatting companiably to each other in the extraodinary sing-song Finnish language. I'm probably the only Brit on the train - listening to music, Sigur Ros, admiring the shining world I am travelling through and giving thanks.... Thank-you, Thank-you, Thank-you for giving me so many blessings - how lucky am I???????

in Finland

Have been on the road for over a week - a rich mixture of work and pleasure - but I am so lucky - my work is a pleasure!

Now in Oulu in northern Finland - and the autumnal colours have arrived here already. I haven't seen much so far - but tomorrow we will be going on a sightseeing tour - so that's special.

Last weekend I did my first part of the Sound Healers course I have enrolled on - it was a huge experience in many ways and at many levels - I haven't really started to process it all yet. It shook me up but it also felt  wonderfully right for me. I have three more weekends to go - and that's exciting. Singing in Georgia has started a huge ball rolling!!!

September?????

Am still struggling a bit - and cross with myself because I am - as I feel I have no right to feel down! Have just been talking to Gilly - who wonderfully said - it's OK - it's September!

It took me a bit to understand - but yes it's September - 6 years ago my life changed totally as Chris died in September 2006 - how did that happen - SIX YEARS - and a year ago my Dad died - so yes September is a significant month for me - but I've never really thought about it like that - last Sunday - September the 2nd - was my Dad's birthday - which was poignant - for my Mum - and maybe me as well - and as Gilly pointed out - Jim has now left Liverpool - and I might also have a bit of a twinge of empty nest syndrome - and it's also often hard to do what I do - whatever that is!

Ok - I will accept some of this - but not all of it!

Thinking about it - I now don't have anyone to tell how I am really feeling  - except maybe Gilly and you my blogg readers.  Looking back the bit I miss  most - is having someone to tell my feelings too - as I would have told Chris how I felt - though actually I probably would not have told him - he would have told me - "What's up with you - you seem a bit miserable!!!!"

Ok - so at the moment I am a bit miserable - that's honest with myself - I feel quite lonely and on my own at the moment - I also feel better already - having written that!

Not certain why - maybe it is because it's September - though I am not convinced - but as I write a whole surge of  'How lucky am I' has just hit me - How lucky am I? to have had a person in my life that I was so close to - for over 30 years - that I didn't even need to tell that I was feeling a bit down - who just knew! Bufffff - I was just so blessed to have had that lovely man in my life for all those years. Maybe that's what I am feeling tonight - another level of loss - and if that's what I feel - that's good - I think it is important to FEEL.

So maybe I am just FEELING September - and maybe that's just a great place to be - even thought it is a bit raw - a bit painful - but I am alive and living a wonderful life - so now I must just be grateful, appreciate and be happy..... lucky, lucky me....

Being on my own.....

I have had a wonderful summer of being with people - Jimmy and Rachel here in my flat, being with people in Georgia and Spirithorse... but tonight I feel on my own....

I thought I would miss Jim - I was talking about it today with my Mum - as we walked companionably around Shakley Mere - a beautiful walk in the sunshine - both of us counting our blessings and being together - a truly lovely afternoon - we then went to Booths supermarket and Mum enjoyed me food shopping - both of us taking pleasure in the small things... Usually I would have had Jim for a meal - breakfast or tea - at least once in a week - and my shopping seemed very singular on this occasion.

But maybe I feel like this because this time last week I was in the Pennant Valley - immersed in the Spirithorse community - nurtured and enriched by just being there - surrounded by many beautiful people that I am honoured to call my friends - another family - richness indeed.

So I hesitate to even recognise that I feel on my own - but at the same time I think I should. I am so amazingly blessed - absolutely no question about that - bufffff - I have been given so much - my life is so rich and varied - that to even feel on my own seems like an indulgence! I think the more you are given - the more appreciative and grateful you should be - and I have been given so much - it is not easy to be uneasy with it all.

I have just looked back at this blogg - and it sounds a bit of a moan! However tonight I do feel a bit restless - but I think that's OK - there is so much change going on in the world at the moment - that I think I should just recognise that the opportunity to stop  - and to become closer with myself is actually a huge gift!