Looking back a year

After I posted the Blogg below - I looked back to last February - and what a difference a year has made! The Jimmy and Tricia of last year have moved on so much - so that's good.

Very busy week

During which we moved offices. I thought moving a team of 21 would be quite a big job – but it was actually more hard work than I had imagined. A hundred little things and a lot of mess!

Last weekend away with Peri and Nita was lovely – the hotel was really nice and the weather was gorgeous and we talked, ate, drank wine, laughed did a little bit of walking and lots and lots more talking! So exactly what was required, I know Nita and Peri are living with so much more pressure and stress than me, and I have huge admiration for both of them. It was also lovely to see how much my boys are appreciated by them both. The weekend away was only possible because of my boys and I don’t think they realise how important their part is, in the lives of Nita, Peri, Neil, Aziz and Jamal. Chris and I did a good job with our lovely three sons.

Estabaned on Friday and Amnesty Quiz last night – we came third, Lara and Alex home and today we are all going to see Olivia, my parent’s first Great Grand Child. I have knitted some very cute pink things. My parent’s are treasuring the arrival of this very special representative of the next generation. I am sure there will be more but I don’t know how many of them my parents will see.

Busy and happier

Cardiff and London this week with lots of packing and shredding prior to the move on Monday.

Feel happier in myself – the depression – ‘What’s the purpose of life?’ type feeling seems to have lifted which is good.

It’s Saturday morning and Alex came home last night – he’s going to put Jimmy through his Maths and Physics prior to his mocks on Monday.

I’m going away for a night with Nita and Peri, the boys are staying here and Rob is staying with Neil. Both of them deserve a break as they are both coping with a lot more stress than I am. Nita hasn’t had a night off from caring for years and Peri has been running herself ragged with the success of the Choir on top of a full time teaching job and looking after the boys single handedly. So we are going to a posh hotel for a luxury night’s break. But my day will start with walking the dog followed by breakfast and the quiz with my lovely boys.

So how can I be down – how lucky am I……

Friday night

I feel like I’m going through a strange patch at the moment – but maybe life is just a series of strange patches – and the last week has made me revisit quite a lot of them!

I last moved offices over 10 years ago and I’ve worked at the University for over 20 years and I’ve spend the best part of this week – when not in Cardiff – going deep into my life. I felt like throwing the lot away but Paul – who never keeps anything – said that much of the stuff should be archived – for future researchers – and when I looked at it – it is an idiosyncratic version of Liverpool’s history – so I sorted and ended up with two things – an unusual collection of reports etc of their time – mainly 1985 – 1995 and then in a similar time scale - things that I was directly involved in.

Hindsight is an amazing thing – or maybe it’s just the understanding that age and experience gives you – but I looked back at myself and I was surprised how much I quite admired that Tricia - she was quite cheeky – though not very strategic - I felt that I do understand more now. But then I had an overwhelming sense of what has changed – or not changed – and that was depressing. How many wheels have been re-invented – how many lessons not learnt – how much older am I – and how much of my life has gone by! My snapshot being a tiny element in the world but a snapshot never the less and for all that work is anything much better?

Anyway it’s now Friday night and I’m home – comfortably drinking a glass of wine – lap-topping in the front room – looking forward to walking with my sisters tomorrow morning, having the boys tomorrow night and then I suppose at some point coming to terms with living life with all its imperfections and inadequacies- but what more can any of us do?

Being away and being at home.

One of Varazdin's angels.

Have been increasingly aware that I had not done my blogg for ages - haven't had the technology and/or wakefulness to do it - and I've missed it. I have actually read my blogg when away - on the fancy phone but not quite been able to use the technology to write a blogg - though I nearly managed it somewhere! I did find it re-assuring to read myself - and amaze at the technology!

Back at home after Vienna and Cardiff – both of which were very good for me and through which I learnt a lot. Am struggling at the moment to keep positive – being away is in some ways easy as I can put things to the back of my mind but being back home – I am very aware of all the things that are so much part of my new post Chris life. Today was not good – unexpected things happen – things caused by my not thinking things through. I have also had a couple of nights of weird Chris dreams. They are weird – as I am there – (dreamworld) having a conversation (vivid setting) with Chris – the discussion is happy and relaxed but this is matched by a strong feeling that he cannot/should not be seen by others. I’m having these quite regularly at the moment.

I’m sure this is a very normal dream to have but they upset me and add an under-current of uncertainty to my life. I wondered whether to ask the boys if they dream of their Dad – I don’t think I’ll ask Jimmy but I might ask the other two.

We are all moving offices at the moment which is exciting but also means that I’m sorting through my professional life too – which I think also is unsettling me. But time to be positive – how lucky am I to have my lovely boys, the opportunity to travel, to be moving with my lovely team into an amazing building – so time to stop myself being morose and to be positive.